When most people think about weaning, they picture mashed carrots, puree pouches, or Instagram-perfect plates of baby-led finger foods. But here's the thing nobody tells you: weaning is not just about food.
Hi, I’m Lisa a mum of four, early years professional with 23+ years of hands-on childcare experience, and founder of the KINDness™ Weaning Method. I’ve supported hundreds of families internationally through their weaning journey, and the truth is this:
Weaning is an emotional, sensory, and relational experience not just a nutritional milestone.
So trusting their cues, embracing the mess, and focusing on connection rather than perfection. But what I’ve witnessed over the years is just how overwhelmed parents are made to feel about getting weaning "right."
So let’s reframe what weaning really is and how you can do it in a way that supports your baby's development and your confidence as a parent.
Weaning Isn’t a Checklist. It’s a Journey.
The biggest myth I see? Parents thinking babies need to be on three meals a day by week two, that you have to choose between purees or baby-led weaning, or that nutrition is the only goal.
Yes, nutrition matters. But in those early weeks, what your baby eats is far less important than how they experience food. Are they Curious? Engaged? Are you both enjoying it?
I founded the KINDness™ Weaning Approach and it starts with how you feel, too.
K — Keep Calm (and Kind to Yourself)
Weaning doesn’t need to be rushed. There is no race. So many parents feel like they’re failing if their baby isn't eating 'enough' or still prefers milk. The truth? Until around 9-12 months, milk still provides most of your baby's nutrition.
What your baby needs is a calm, connected environment where food is fun, not stressful. Babies pick up on your energy. The more relaxed you are, the more they'll explore.
I — Individual Journey
Your baby is not the same as the baby on your NCT WhatsApp group. They might gag more, or less. They might hate broccoli but love sardines. They might eat with gusto one day and nothing the next.
And that’s okay.
There is no "one way" to wean. KINDness™ means tuning into your baby’s unique personality, needs, and rhythm not trying to follow a rigid schedule that doesn’t fit.
N — Nurture the Connection
Mealtimes are more than about eating. They're about bonding. Eye contact. Smiles. Spoons handed back and forth. Mess made together.
You can have a baby who eats well but still feels pressure or one who takes their time, but feels secure. I know which one I’d choose.
That connection lays the foundation for a healthy relationship with food for life.
D — Discover Together
Your baby is discovering a brand-new world of tastes, textures, temperatures, smells, sounds and it’s all through their senses.
That’s why I pioneered the UK’s first completely edible messy play sessions in 2016. Because babies learn through sensory play. If they can squish it, smear it, lick it, throw it, and explore it safely? They’re learning.
Weaning is not just about filling tummies. It’s about sensory integration, emotional safety, motor skills, and social connection.
What I Want Every Parent to Know:
● You cannot fail at weaning if you’re following your baby’s cues.
● It’s okay to cry or feel lost some days. We all do.
● Gagging is normal.
● You can mix purees and finger foods.
● You’re doing better than you think.
Let’s Change the Way We Talk About Weaning
Weaning should not feel like a test you have to pass. It should feel like a journey you're invited to enjoy.
If you want support, encouragement, or even just a space where you won’t be judged, come join my KINDness™ Weaning Movement. It's for parents just like you and it's built on heart, not fear.
Discover more and get in touch here.
💛 Lisa x
